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Low self-confidence isnt a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better. Barrie Davenport

You are not born with confidence; you have to learn how to be confident. To build confidence, you have to start to think about what is important to you and what you believe in. What makes you extraordinary? Your skills, talents and abilities. There are three simple ways you can implement right now:

One way you can raise your self-confidence is to become an expert in your field. You can separate yourself from other people by doing what you know how to do with excellence. This is referred to as the ability to perform efficiently in your area. Lets say that you are a teacher. Think about how you can be different from other teachers. What makes you unique and how you can be the best teacher. Learn everything you can about what you are teaching, remember that knowledge is power, the more you know, the more powerful and confident you will become

The second way to build your confidence is to be aware of your achievements. The best way to do it is to create a journal. Make a list of the ten best things you have achieved. Read them out loud and you will feel excited and proud of yourself. Keep this journal close to you, take it whatever you go. During the day if you achieved something, it does not matter if it is small or big, write it down. Before you go to be read your journal and give yourself permission to feel good and proud

The third way to build your confidence is through self-hypnosis. Look for a cd or an mp3 about hypnosis for confidence and listen to it daily. Find a moment during the day where you can have 20 to 30 minutes with no interruptions. Turn off your phone, the tv, music. Sit straight and relax and listen to your hypnosis for confidence. Do it for 21 days, If you miss one day start again. You will notice that gradually you will naturally feel more confident and proud of yourself.

Self-confidence can be learned, it just takes practice and perseverance. Start right now, set your goal to be confident, make a plan and stick with it. You will not regret your efforts.

Whether one believes it or not, the ability to be happy is primarily based on your thought process. In fact, whatever we feel passionately about a certain memory or incident all boils down on the ability of our mind to process it. That is the power of our mind. A lot of people unfortunately disregard the potential of the mind to alter behavior or mood. But that is a fact and a reality that most people fail to realize.

However, in the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP, the researchers and students of this discipline have harnessed well the power of the mind. In fact, our mind has the ability to change reality. It changes reality in such a way that alters our current perception or belief of a certain premise or stimulus. This has been considered to be very useful for those people who are always experiencing unfavorable thoughts or feelings.

To apply the theories and the principles behind NLP, it is important to know the different phases involved in NLP. These are the following:

Preparation Phase

Preparation phase allows you to prepare your mind to a certain stimulus or event which is commonly found to be unfavorable or undesirable. This requires you to make use of any vividly happy memory that you have. One should be able to carefully detail all there is in that memory which includes its location, sound, perspective, clarity, and etc. It must all be listed down.

Now, the next stage here is to think of that same happy thought without the details that you have listed. What do you notice? Did your perception on that happy thought alter?

Unplugging Phase

The unplugging phase is that phase in which you have to directly deal with a certain negative memory and remedy the feelings associated with it. The process involves the same as during the preparation phase. However, you also think of that bad memory without its details. Remove the color, the sound, clarity, and every detail about it. How do you feel about that bad memory without its details?

Surely, there is a change of how you feel about a certain event or memory when you remove the details in that memory. Thus, this should alter how you treat a certain stimulus. Basically, these are the phases involved in NLP that will help you cope up with problems or help you overcome any traumatic experience that you have had in your life.